I heard the story over and over again from my Mother-in-law about my husband’s attachment to his blanket when he was young. At one point she cut a piece of it off and put it in his pocket so he had it with him at all times. Once the blanket ran it’s course the security became a hat, and he still wears one to this day mainly due to habit.
Now that my boys are ages 4 and up it’s been interesting to watch them grow and compare them to my husband and I when we were kids. I was a thumb sucker, and like I said above hubby was attached to a blanket and then a hat.
It has turned out that our middle son, Dylan, who struggles with anxiety, uses his hat to help him feel secure. My youngest, Jake, is the one who loved blankets from the beginning. Thankfully Jake doesn’t carry it around and only needs it when he sleeps. It was comforting that none of them were thumb suckers, because I know how hard it was for my Mom to break me of it.
For Dylan the sense of security with the hat has been helpful. Granted men aren’t suppose to wear hats indoors, but his first year of preschool he needed it and the teacher understood. Looking back I now wish I would have thought of something small that he could have carried with him at all times, even here in the house.
Dylan’s separation anxiety here at home was at times unbearable and if he would have had an attachment to something at a younger age I wonder if that would have helped. The reason why his separation anxiety was so unbearable at times is because I couldn’t leave a room without him getting very upset. Now I know children go through that naturally between the ages of 9 to 18 months, but his continued and is gradually getting better. Furthermore, if I was sitting in one place and he could see me he was fine, but the minute I’d have to get up and go do something he was a mess.
During times such at those as well as many others I wondered if being attached to a stuffed animal or a blanket would have benefited him like it did my husband when he was young. So parents if you worry about your child’s attachment to anything at a young age please let it be and try to get multiples of the exact same thing. That “thing” may be very beneficial in more ways than you really understand.