Oh the dreaded homework and projects is once again upon us as parents now that most schools are back in session. I remember those days as a kid when I needed homework help and usually Dad was the one who helped. Now I’m in my Dad’s position and I see and understand why he said the things he said.
“I’m not going to do it for you,” was uttered many a times and now I’m saying the same thing to my sons. They look at me with the sad eyes and truly not understanding what’s being expected of them. I know the look well. It usually takes a while for the lightbulb to come on and when it does I’m proud that I stood my ground and made him do it himself.
Projects are a challenge, because I’m such a perfectionist. When there’s a poster that needs to be done I’m all about centering words, framing pictures, etc, but I remind myself constantly it’s his project not mine. So I teach him how to make the poster look presentable, and share about embellishments. Once it’s all said and done it does look like he did it and not me and for that I am proud.
Don’t get me wrong I don’t mind helping them by any means, especially when it’s evident that he doesn’t understand the material. So sometimes the request is in reverse. There’s no homework, but a paper with a C or a D is brought home so I sit him down and we review the material. I know our sons have the potential of getting As & Bs, so if it’s anything less he’s either starting not to care or sincerely doesn’t understand and needs help. Thankfully the boys are receptive so far, when I request to review a paper with them, and I hope that continues.